I wish I had done this when I was pregnant

Learn how to meditate. Yes, I wish I had learned how to meditate and made it part of my daily routine when I was pregnant. Unfortunately, I did not and it never ever crossed my mind, nor was it ever recommended to me by anyone or in any book on pregnancy. Instead I focused on reading as much as I could about birth, labor and what the heck you do with a baby. I didn’t think much at all about my postpartum period and ultimately came to the conclusion that it wasn’t anything I could plan or prepare for so I will just have to wing it. In retrospect, I don’t believe this is entirely true. I think there are ways to prepare, but there is no way to truly understand what it will be like until you go through it.  I feel the time I had during pregnancy would have been well spent learning how to meditate and would have prepared me for what was to come much better than anything else I could have done. The research behind the benefits of meditation abound and the postpartum period is likely the most stressful and transformation time in a woman’s life. Having meditation in your life and daily routine could do wonders for your mental health and overall sense of wellbeing during this time. 
 
Let me tell you about my recent journey into the world of daily meditation while in quarantine with a 1 and  3 year old. I have meditated on and off for about 8 years, my longest stint was about 4-months when I would meditate 5-6x/week for about 10-15min in the morning. This was when I was childless and even then it felt like such a chore and was never easy or routine, so it never made it into the habit phase. Since that time I dabbled here and there, going to lectures and guided meditations whenever possible and to be perfectly honest, whenever convenient which was not often. Over the years I have read about the unending benefit of meditation and know the science pretty much not debatable. Meditation is the best medicine for our brains, hands down. I tried to learn, I tried to teach my clients what I learned in hopes it would help them, but it always felt so hard.  I knew it was supposed to feel easy, what was I doing wrong? I have come to find out that I was trying too hard, too infrequently and without a clear plan or recipe to follow but rather a mish-mosh of techniques mostly designed for monks rather than “real” people. 
 
“Wait a minute, I have been learning meditation intended for individuals who spend their entire life in meditation and there is a meditation out there designed for normal people? Why has no one been talking about this?!”
 
In March, I found myself furloughed from my clinic job with more time on my hands than I had ever imagined I would have until my kids left home. After the first week I had exhausted my social media and news apps on my phone. I had cleared my inbox and in doing so realized I could get a pretty sweet deal on just about any home exercise program I could possibly want yet nothing piqued my interest. Then on a childless (thank you mom and dad) drive to the grocery store I heard about Ziva Meditation taught by Emily Fletcher on some “mom” podcast. I was immediately sold by her description of the meditation she taught being for regular busy people instead of monks. I thought, “wait a minute, I have been learning meditation intended for individuals who spend their entire life in meditation and there is a meditation out there designed for normal people? Why has no one been talking about this!”. It sounded like exactly what I needed to embrace the slowing down being forced on my life. So I signed up and diligently learned the Ziva Meditation technique over a 15-day period, spending 20-30min in the early morning then another 15min in the early afternoon. I had committed to this twice a day routine with the support from my husband who graciously agreed to take over morning duty to allow me the time to meditate before coming down to greet the day. This change in routine was a life changer! 
 
I am now about 4 months into my daily meditation routine and I have not skipped a day and have only missed a meditation about 10 times. My energy immediately surged and my mental clarity has greatly improved. My thought trains feel more clear and organized. My anxiety brain is so much quieter, I worry less, and I feel a greater sense of peace in my days. I still get overwhelmed, angry, sad, mad, stressed, and anxious but the intensity and frequency in which these unpleasant emotions arise is markedly improved. The Ziva meditation technique has made it to the level of habit. I miss it, I yearn for it, I look forward to it- especially the 2nd one of the day. Without it, I’m wiped out and exhausted by days end. With it, I can often sit down and bang out another solid 1-3 hours of focused work after my kids are asleep. This was unfathomable 6 months ago. 
 
“Every first-time pregnant mom should take the time during pregnancy to establish a solid meditation habit and routine”
 
I could go on and on about my adoration for meditating twice a day, instead I am going to shout from the rooftops right now that in addition to childbirth education classes, every first-time pregnant mom should take the time during pregnancy to establish a solid meditation habit and routine.It will be a challenge to adjust the routine when your baby arrives, but I believe it can be done. For me, I would have definitely done it while breastfeeding my marathon feeder who would sometimes go for 45-60minutes! I could have been meditating instead of reading about what so and so is doing and your not and going down the “oh my god, I’m a horrible mom” train, I could have been nourishing my brain by de-stressing and finishing with manifesting what ever the heck I want- including be the best mom on the block or whatever floated my boat at that moment. Any new mom with the ability to maintain a brain that is routinely distressing and building up its reserves will function better, feel better and be better. Meditation is a new mom’s best tool for feeling like herself in the midst of complete life transformation. 
 
“Life would have been a bit easier, a bit more hopeful, and a bit more peaceful”
 
So yes, I wish I had learned to meditate when I was pregnant. I wish I had this tool in my routine 4 years ago. Life would have been a bit easier, a bit more hopeful, and a bit more peaceful. I also hope that moms out there will read this and take what I have to say to heart and find benefit in their life with this advice. 
 
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This post comes from my heart to yours. I have no connection what so ever with Ziva. Ziva is one method of meditating. It worked great for me and could work great for you. I encourage you to look into Ziva (Click here) but above all else I encourage you to find your own path to a routine meditation practice.